Maybe it is not rejection but Universal Re-Direction
- Vicki Button
- Jul 5, 2017
- 3 min read
I was reminded today from a friend about how upsetting and heartbreaking it is to want to be able to help someone you care about but they won't allow you to help them. I have experienced this in the past and I have learnt a lot about other people's reactions and my own
reactions.
I have seen people in relationships where one partner suddenly wants space because
they are confused about their feelings and the other partner feels so rejected and hurt, that
they can't let go. Rejection can be so painful because all you want to do is give love and comfort to someone and they don't want it. At what point do you give up on them and walk
away? That is a question that many people ask themselves. Or that feeling of having given
up so much of your time on someone and it feels as though it was thrown back in your face.
It takes time and many emotions to get through these periods of life, allow yourself time,
allow yourself to feel the emotions, acknowledging how you feel and know that tomorrow
will be better than today.
It may also be the case where you are watching a friend or relative be in a situation with
another person that you can see is harmful to them and you can't for the life of you see why
they would want to continue in that situation when it is only destructive for them, but they
still choose to remain in that position and you can't do a thing about it. It takes strength
to be able to stand back and allow those you love to work through this themselves and all you
can do is be there for them when they come out of it. Of course you would step in if someone's life was in danger but when they choose to be with someone that you know is
no good for them, your hands are tied, this is their journey, their choice.
I have seen heartbroken parents lose touch with their children because of partners that
have come in and taken them away, I have seen people's souls crushed from giving love
and receiving abuse, I have seen people so heartbroken, they never want to open their hearts
again and trust another, it is devastating how emotions and actions of others can nearly destroy a person.
Maybe you are the one who is rejecting someone's else feelings toward you. Maybe they are trying to give you their love and you feel you don't want it but at the same time you don't want to hurt them. There is no nice way to reject someone, all you can do is be truthful. Stand in your belief and speak from the heart that is all that is required.
The healing starts with letting go. If you are in a situation where you feel your love
is not wanted, make a conscious decision today that you are going to give the power back
to yourself. Tell yourself, "I can do this, tomorrow will always be better than today". What you are feeling and experiencing today will be different in a years time. Make the decision to either sit back in the shadows and wait until they want you back in their life or make the decision to move forward without them. You have a choice in your reaction. So many people will beat themselves up instead of being kind to themselves. And if the situation is reversed and you feel you wish to do things alone and give yourself space, just be honest as the truth will always set you free. It may feel as though you are the only person going through this, but I can guarantee you there are billions of people feeling exactly what you are right now and who knows the Universe might just know that something more wonderful is ahead and helping you to move in that direction.
What you are going through will give you strength and experience to your soul. You are LOVE, you've given LOVE, you've felt LOVE then you are blessed.
